In 25 years I’ve learned a few things, and not nearly enough. This list isn’t all inclusive. It probably doesn’t even hit the tip of the iceberg. But these are things that I’ve learned in my 25 years about living, laughing, & loving.
01. Don’t chase after the friends that are only about having a good time. You need those people who challenge, inspire, and strengthen you.
02. Investing your heart in the wrong emotional bank is easy. It is easy to give too much of yourself away. The hard part is picking up the pieces when the Stock Market Crashes.
03. Life is meant to be done in community. People aren’t expendable accessories, they are a necessity.
04. Life is much harder when you take the value and beauty away from a simple laugh.
05. If you look hard enough, there are still reasons to be inspired and awestruck with the kidness of strangers.
06. Some things will still be funny in three years. Some things will still be funny in five. And you better treasure those things that still have you in stitches beyond that.
07. Distance means nothing to true friends. You regret that you can’t fold a map and put your locations all together. But you still laugh together, cry together, and share together. Friendship and love are two forces that are not bound by the laws of nature.
08. Gossip is one of those forces that worries you much more if you’re an active participant in the verbal slaughter.
09. True listening is not waiting for a pause in the conversation to interject your thoughts. It is hearing what is being said.
10. The biggest regrets in my life have been the things that I’ve said that I cannot take back, and the things that I should have said but didn’t.
11. Handwritten letters are the most special and unique way to let people know that you’re thinking of them. Social media and texting do not replace the effort to communicate.
12. There will always be someone prettier, faster, funnier, smarter than you. This isn’t a game of comparison. The real winners are those who strive, every day, to be the best THEM that they can be. Nobody can be a better you than you.
13. People are fallible. They will always surprise you and it won’t always be good.
14. The only relationship that should change how you view your identity is your relationship with Christ.
15. People are not permanent. Love deeply, laugh loudly, and live boldly with the companions that you have.
16. You are never too old to appreciate a good bedtime story.
17. My story is important.
18. Some Saturdays are perfectly created to be sleep in Saturdays.
19. Pajamas aren’t really meant for many other places apart from your home. People of Walmart isn’t an aspiration you’re supposed to have.
20. Prince Charming isn’t real. It’s a lie. I am not Cinderella or any other Disney princess. It is an unfair desire to want someone to be an idealized form of perceived perfection. We are all flawed. We love people in spite of those flaws. We win the love lottery when someone loves us even when our flaws stare them right in the face.
21. Some people will love you even when everything about you is ugly. Accept their love. It is the most pure form.
22. Coffee and tea will warm even the coldest of bones.
23. Say yes to things that scare you. Sometimes, when you push back fear, you unleash a stronger version of yourself.
24. Home is not a place. It is company. Home are the people that make you feel cozy and strong and safe.
25. Grow. Learn new things. See new places. Accept new challenges. Live live live.
What would you add to the list?